When Kids Lie: How You Can Help Your Child Build Trust and Learn the Truth--
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| Response to Intervention-parents |
we teach our own children to lie in many ways. See if you can relate to any of the following as happening to you as a child or, perhaps, something you told your own children. You call someone old, fat, ugly or some other "not nice" phrase and you are told people don't say things like that. Kids have a natural instinct to lie. They do it for many reasons including to avoid embarrassment, protect others, and get out of trouble.
In some cases, kids lie as a way to cover up their mistakes or mask the truth. This is especially true when kids come from an abusive home and they're used to telling lies as a way to protect themselves. It's important that we don't punish our children for trying to hide the truth. Instead, we need to support them and help them learn how to tell the difference between "good" and "bad" secrets.
This article will provide you with insights on what lies look like in different stages of development, warning signs your child may be lying, and ways you can help build trust and teach your child the truth about good secrets vs bad secrets.
The Development of Lies in Childhood--
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Lies are a natural part of childhood development. Kids start telling lies as early as 2 to 3 years old and the number of lies typically peaks at about 8 to 10 years old. It's important to remember that kids lie for many reasons. As they grow, the type of lies will change as well. Understanding those reasons can help you better understand your child and their needs.
- -To avoid embarrassment: One of the first lies kids tell is because they're embarrassed and want to avoid other people finding out about their mistake or because they don't want others to know that they made a bad decision.
- -To protect others: Kids might also lie because they don't want someone else to get in trouble for something they did.
- -To get out of trouble: Some kids will say anything if it means avoiding getting punished by an authority figure because lying seems like less trouble than admitting to what they actually did wrong.
Warning Signs Your Child May Be Lying--
There are many warning signs that your child is lying. Some of these include if they seem restless, have dilated pupils, can't look you in the eye, or are not answering your question. If your child is behaving oddly, it's possible that they're trying to hide something.
How to Help Build Trust and Teach the Truth--
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As children grow and mature, they will lie more and more. This is a normal part of development. But as parents, we need to be able to distinguish between good and bad lies. One way we can help our children learn the difference between "good" and "bad" secrets is by teaching them about healthy relationships early on.
Kids who come from abusive homes may lie as a way to protect themselves. It's important that we understand that they don't want to reveal the abuse they're experiencing at home for fear of punishment or retaliation from their abuser.
By teaching our children about healthy relationships early on, we can set them up for success with healthy relationship skills. These skills will allow them to make better decisions for themselves and protect themselves from others who may try to take advantage of them in the future. Teaching kids about healthy relationships early on also teaches them how to identify when someone has crossed boundaries or has been inappropriate with them in some way (sexual, emotional). If you notice your child lying frequently or lying about where they're going after school, it could be worth exploring if they're being abused at home or if they've been sexually assaulted at school or elsewhere.
Conclusion-Parenting is not easy--
Parenting is not easy. But it's also not the toughest job in the world, especially for older parents. And if you want to make it a little easier, you can follow these simple steps to help your child learn the truth.
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about something that happened, you can ask them to retell the story in their own words. This helps them practice telling the truth and also helps you see how old they are when they tell their stories. You were told not to tell the truth because something bad would happen to you. Next time you are tempted to tell your child or grandchild that it's o.k. to avoid the truth in certain circumstances, think about the long-term results of teaching a child to lie.
